There was an interesting interview on NBC's Today Show. I didn't catch the entire segment, but what I did see was a guy and a girl discussing Chick Flicks and the male perspective. The guy was a typical male and said he didn't really mind going with a girl to see a movie, and he didn't mind the emotions, but very rarely did they portray normal male reactions/actions. It was funny because he asked if a woman has ever really had a man say "You complete me." He said basically the male actor emotions weren't authentic. But the guy said he did actually like the romantic side. Which I'm sure would never be admitted in front of his bud's on poker night. Matt Lauer admitted to crying at the end of The Notebook.
But have you ever gone to see an action movie with a guy and cringe at the gun toting, big-breasted Daisy Duke sidekick? Have you ever laughed and thought "How corny. That's not a realistic female reaction." Or something along those lines.
How many self-help relationship books are written every year? Hmmm. There goes my analytical (read-anal) mind again. A best seller turned female motivational phenomenon out a while back is "He's Just Not That Into You." The man who co-authored the book was a former writer for HBO's Sex in the City. Women (ME) are constantly frustrated by our significant other's behaviour that there is a very large market for women wanting to know what in the heck our guys are thinking.
I personally have tried asking. Fat lot of good that did me. My hubby will hesitate which means he is weighing out his options...and the consequences his answer may bring. He is teaching our boys to just humor Mom. Sometimes it pisses me off. But not most of the time because it means I get my way the majority of the time.
So how can we authenticate dialogue? Without a male perspective? I know in my writing I try to think about my experiences...good and bad. I also try to think about how my hubby or male influence might react. But to be honest, I guess how I expect them to react. After all...the majority of our readers are female.
Summer of Discernment
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